(Editor’s note: This blog post is a companion piece to a related story on the UNC Health Care website, which you can read here.)
Elizabeth Swaringen wrote this …

Michael Beard
As I am not a parent, I can only begin to imagine the depth of emotions the Sperlings and the Beards have experienced and will continue to experience in the days ahead. I do know that there is no more helpless feeling than when a loved one is sick, and that there is genuine healing for the soul when you can use the lessons learned – especially the most difficult ones – to ease someone else’s journey.

From left to right: Michael Beard, Judith Beard, Randy Sperling and Shelly Sperling enjoy a lighter moment at SECU Family House.
For Randy and Shelly and Judith and Michael each has been teacher and student simultaneously in ways that transcend what was happening with Philip and Jane. There were opportunities for lessons in religion and culture – the Sperlings are Jewish and the Beards are Catholic.

The Beards, from Australia, are used to warm weather at Christmas. In Chapel Hill they got snow instead.
Then there was the Christmas snow – a welcome gift for the Sperlings who are natives of Colorado – and an oddity for the Beards who are accustomed to warm Christmases given that December is summer Down Under. And it was clear in the interview that regardless of the darkest hours, humor was always an active partner in their friendship. There were plentiful puns, and Shelly talking about the difficulty of riding in the back seat of his own car as Michael and Judith drove him and Randy back to Charlotte after Philip’s death. Think about it.

Randy Sperling
After the interview, Courtney Potter, who took the photos that accompany the story, and I were invited to join the Sperlings and the Beards for a late breakfast that each had a hand in preparing in the SECU Family House kitchen: a scramble of eggs, potatoes and onions, challah bread, good coffee and orange juice. There, over that simple meal of comfort food, we witnessed the tender counsel and gentle support on which their friendship was founded.



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